why stalk?

Its pointless when people stalk others... and I know since it has happend to me several times. One ex stalked me for 5 years online mostly since he was in the army. But mostly just lurkers looking into my profiles that forced me to put them into "friends only", they wanted to watch and judge in silence... pointless effort, Wasted time, and reason to stay alive. Instead of silently watching just speak your mind question outloud, better to be honest and blunt.

I am glad I am a blunt honest person who hardly holds back. I know not to keep the idiot when they are down, but instead hold out a helping hand to help them back up. Its rare to be quiet, although I am quiet when you meet me, but I wont judge you, I wont generalize what, who, and where you are, i rather learn about you and for you to tell me. We are all humans who need to be respected and what not as well as given a chance. Since there are so many variables and outside forces that can cause us to be misjudged due to us having a bad day.

Now lurkers are so odd they just watch and try to disect and make assumptions of another. Some just to live through others, then those who just want to be nosy, and other looking to blame someone for something that person has nothing to do. Oh yea and the highschool drama crap of who are you with, omg her/him... get over it. We are not 14 years old people do what they want, yea we may not like it but it happens to everyone, no one is spared in love and war.

I do wonder if my exhusband lurks my profiles at times... but we ended to many reason, i pulled the plug to the marriage since it was going downhill and no rescue could help us, just glad it was in the early years and not further down the line when kids may have been born instead of miscarried. Those that can survive that turmoil I applaude them and their efforts even if its a battle, but in the end it will somewhat work for the better. Its just walking and running through the wreckage is the hardest. But then I think a wreckage is what I would of preferred instead of a calm divorce and after it was all done then came the bombs of fights and messing up my credit and lies... the aftermath was worse... like the calm in the eye of a hurricane then the backlash was the worst part in my divorce. Its soon to be 2 years since the divorce and it was the best choice I made and the worst I did ever make was getting married. Its sad that such a joyous thing was my downfall of my life.

but its a learning experience, one i wasn't ready for and one that stalkers and lurkers watched and laughed in my demise. But I wont do that to them when they go through this, instead i will hold out a helping hand since I already walked this destruction and know how it feels to be left alone at sea. But then again I wouldnt know since I dont watch others unless they are close to my heart.

still why stalk anyone? why feel the need to control or have to know whats going on with another person? Whats meant to be will be and whats not,...well thats life it goes on with or without you. So get your running shoes on and run forward there is no way back whats done is done. See you in hell.